Personally, I am in favor of toddler harnesses and leashes. For those of you not familiar with them, they consist of a vest-like harness that the child wears. Attached to the back of the harness is, well, a leash, or a lead. Sometimes the leash will have an adjustable, velcroed end so that it can later be used on its own with the child, with the adjustable end going around the child’s wrist. That is something I would not use, as I’d rather my child be comfortable in a harness, where the pressure of him pulling or tugging would be evenly distributed around his body, whereas with a leash the pressure would be on his wrist and arm.

We used a toddler harness with our daughter, and we use it now with our son. They’re a great way to give your child a chance to explore his surroundings in a safe manner. Hand holding isn’t always feasible, especially when you have a child tugging and twisting because they want to walk a little ways ahead of you or beside you, rather than right next to you. Also, it frees up a hand for you, since you can easily hold onto a leash by slipping the looped end around your wrist.

When we go for walks together, my son wears a harness. He tends to just make a beeline for anything and runs all over the place, and with a harness I can keep him within a safe, secure distance, while still being able to pay attention to my daughter.

My answer for why I’m in favor of toddler harnesses can be summed up in one line: Better a leashed kid than a missing, injured or dead one.

But last night? Hell no. If she’s old enough to take them out, she’s old enough to put them away. Furthermore, I am not a maid. So after a half hour of her being in her room and doing everything but putting her toys away, I handed her a trash bag. All of the toys that her bins once contained all now in a large garbage bag. We told her they’re going “away”. She thinks they’re being put in the trash. We’ll be putting them in the shed for safekeeping. If she can responsibly take care of the toys she has currently for several weeks, we’ll bring in a few more at a time and see how she does.